“Humans are justifying creatures… we’ll craft a story and then we’ll dig-in and get behind it. The exercise is, I think, to challenge our story recognizing that is our nature.”

While many people may be naturally gifted when it comes to interpersonal skills, others struggle in the area and it often holds them back and expends a lot of time and energy.

What most people fail to recognize is that arguments are often rooted in the simple truth that nobody wants to be thought of as stupid or dumb and therefore will do whatever they can to position themselves as “right” and justify their actions, no matter what they might have been.

Consider this truth and how it might be useful when understanding and relating to friends, family and others better— to help avoid unnecessary arguments.

Whether it’s as mundane as not doing the dishes or as horrible as murder one tends to justify their actions. And, it’s important to note that people will as fiercely defend their non-actions as their their actions!

“People will either show you their results or they will show you their excuses.”

Martin asks listeners to examine various aspects of their lives, analyze those results and simply ask, “What am I justifying?”

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Resources

Brian Tracy: Maximum Achievement: Strategies and Skills That Will Unlock Your Hidden Powers to Succeed

The Habit Factor app

The Habit Factor template

The Habit Factor book

Big Brothers Big Sisters