Category: Mind Bullet Mondays (page 1 of 6)

Why Adding Controls &
Constraints to Your Life is
Essential

“The freedom of tomorrow lies in the discipline of today.” ~Grunburg

The “BIG” idea for this mind-bullet Monday revolves around the importance of implementing controls and constraints into our lives.

“Controls and constraints!?” You may be saying, “That sounds horrible, uncomfortable and pretty lame!”

Well, it turns out that controls and constraints tend to be precisely the types of parameters that can help you forge new behaviors (habits) to assist you in achieving your goals more quickly.

Even The Habit Factor’s P.A.R.R. methodology demonstrates this with its frequency per week, minimum success criteria, and tracking period (4 weeks).

Perhaps more importantly (and paradoxically): It turns out that freedom is born from controls and constraints. Consider the person who never develops and institutes any controls and constraints in their life (diet, exercise and or/finances, etc.). This is a person who will likely struggle for a long time.

Conversely, the person who institutes controls and constraints (disciplines) related to the same subjects (diet, exercise and finances) will enjoy greater freedoms down the road.

Hence, the path to greater freedom in your future is to institute greater disciplines today.


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The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

The Habit Factor’s Facebook (Private) Accountability Group
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Burning Ships Not Bridges

“I love deadlines. I like the whooshing sound they make as they fly by.” ~Douglas Adams

By: Martin Grunburg

It’s great to be back in the saddle and while this is NOT the official kick-off of Season 4 (Habits 2 Goals Podcast), it is my effort to get you caught up and share at least one of the great lessons I recently experienced.

Admittedly, you’re gonna have to be a little patient (it takes a while to set the table here) but coincidentally patience is a component part of this lessons anyway! ; )

Today, I share a bit about my long-standing partnership (23+ yrs) and it’s official separation… all good, mostly. The fact is we’d been partners (3 of us) longer than most marriages exist and with our company’s recent win of a prime contract award (defense) AND, given that they are in the neighborhood of 70 years old an exist strategy presented itself.

How and why this may relate to you.

Entrepreneurs (people in general) love to cling to motto’s, slogans, trite and not so trite sayings, that guide and drive them and their decision making.

For instance, “Hire slow and fire fast.” Almost every entrepreneur will tell you that is a MUST. Another is “Never settle!” or another, “revenue is vanity and profit is sanity.”

All good stuff right? MOST of the time. Sometimes though, from my experience, I’ve witnessed a lot of challenge created from clinging to hard-set ideas and notions like these as though they are set in stone.

We’ve talked about it here many of times, dichotomous thinking can be very dangerous and ultimately creates a lot of friction, struggle and can even make one feel as though they are running in circles.

Let’s use the above as examples; hard to argue with “profit is sanity and revenue is vanity”. That’s one of my favorites! EXCEPT -take Jeff Bezos and Amazon. I believe (at least for a day anyway, he just became the richest man in the world and for the most part his philosophy for Amazon was contrarian to that focused primary on revenue with little emphasis on profits.

Or, how about, “Never settle!” Sounds pretty amazing right? Imagine a life of never settling. Well, the last time I heard that advice it was from a guy who’s now divorced and you can bet he “settled” in court.

What about “hire slow and fire fast”. Nobody’s ever complained that they fired someone too quickly, right? Again – most of the time this is credible and worthy advice. However, I can tell you I made one of my best hires in about 30 minutes over a beer.

So, what’s the point?

BE OPEN-MINDED and do NOT RUSH if you do not have to. Don’t cling to trite slogans for the sake of trying to simplify things for yourself and make your life easy… question your bias to lean into such decisions!

When it is not necessary to make a decision, it is necessary not to make a decision. ~Lord Falkland

In today’s episode, I review my challenge/struggle to follow one great and romantic motto entrepreneurs love! “Burn the ships!
Yet, incredibly, unbeknown to me there was another powerful motto directly competing with that philosophy. You can hear about it on the podcast site or download it in iTunes.

Harvard 80 year Happiness Study! (I reference)

Slight correction I relate a great line from MASTERY a fantastic book by Robert Greene, the actual line is, “the greatest impediment to your creativity is your own impatience.”

Enjoy!

FREE resource to keep that mind tuned!!

As a Man Thinketh

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(FREE! The Habit Factor’s Tracking Template)

The Habit Factor® (website: BLOG, tips, tools and other resources)

The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

The Habit Factor’s Facebook (Private) Accountability Group


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S3-39: MBM – Metamorphosis

“There is nothing in a catapiller that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly.” ~Buckminster Fuller

[Note: *Apologies* The sound quality at times is compromised in this episode. Henry had to use his cell phone and there a a few moments (briefly) where  background noise interferes. Thanks for your patience and understanding.*]

“Habit is a cobweb at first and a cable at last.” ~Spanish Proverb

Martin and Henry get after this one on the heels of a keynote presentation Martin recently did for IREM (institute for real estate management). He talks to Henry about how he inserted these same “two themes” at the front of the presentation because they applied so well to the REstart graduates who were being honored at the luncheon.

MG then discusses this powerful idea of transformation (preferring the term, “Metamorphosis”) and our individual capacity to turn virtually any weakness into a strength using the force of habit.

Today it’s popular in the personal development world to “ignore your weakness and just focus on your strengths”. History is filled though with stories where the underdog went to work on his weaknesses instead of accepting them and turned them into life altering strengths!

Martin shares that his recent strengthfinder results prove this idea as his five “strengths” according to their extended survey are: strategy, relator, achiever, futurist, positivity.

The problem though with this idea of ignoring your weakness is (with attention) your weakness may be your greatest gift! Since weaknesses often call your attention, by harnessing habit you can turn almost any weakness into a strength.

“The Habit Factor wouldn’t exist (book or app) if I just accepted my weakness!”

Sometimes leaning into your weakness with infinite patience and sincere desire to improve is the best thing you can do. Especially if you follow P.A.R.R.

Enjoy!

RESOURCES:

StrengthFinder

Jim Kwik: Kwik Learning  (weakness to strength!)

What does Benjamin Franklin and a Hindu Priest Have in Common?

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The Habit Factor® (website: BLOG, tips, tools and other resources)

The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

The Habit Factor’s Facebook (Private) Accountability Group


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S3-36: MBM – Intention.


“True nobility isn’t about being better than someone else, it’s about being better than you used to be.” Dr. Wayne Dyer

Martin tackles this Mind Bullet Monday solo and labels it a bit of a hybrid episode since he bridges concepts and ideas from a couple prior episodes.

This episode is on the heels of the synchronicity/serendipity episode where Martin and Henry compare theories on ways to create an increased frequency of such events in our lives.?? Martin then adds some of the late, great Dr. Wayne Dyer’s thoughts via his bestseller, The Power of Intention. Specifically where Dyer reviews the importance of aligning with the “FACE” of the “Creative” source.

In his book, Dr. Dyer spells out the “Seven Faces of Intention” Creativity, Kindness, Love, Beauty, Expansiveness, Abundance and Receptivity and how Dr. Dyer believed deeply that creating alignment / “matching up” with sources “Faces” of energy was essential.

Martin then takes the entire process a step further, and perhaps makes it sound/concrete by recommending to the listener that they focus upon and TRACK just ONE “FACE” at a time for four weeks following the habit factor method. This one step would mimic the process Benjamin Franklin used that was recently recounted on the a prior episode where Ben tracked his behaviors (habits) to create VIRTUES!

RESOURCES:

The Power of Intention

What does Benjamin Franklin and a Hindu Priest Have in Common?

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The Habit Factor® (website: BLOG, tips, tools and other resources)

The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

The Habit Factor’s Facebook (Private) Accountability Group


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S3-33: MBM – Talk, Talk, Talk

“Silence is the source of great strength.”

Talk, Talk, Talk.

Speaking for the most part is easy. Particularly about things we are GOING to do. However, doing them and the work they entail is hard.

Which do you choose?

While today’s topic has been touched upon? from various angles in prior seasons: In Season I it was SILENCE and CONCENTRATION and how silence is the source of GREAT strength and wisdom! Then, in season II’s FAF, MG addresses the question, “Should we announce our goals?

Today’s episode though is really inspired by Ryan Holiday’s latest book, “Ego is the Enemy“. A fantastic book where he’s devotes an entire chapter entitled, Talk, Talk, Talk to this idea that so many of us succubm to the easy? the idle, valueless, chatter.

How easy is it to post on twitter, “I’ve just signed up for my first marathon!” Versus, the challenge to actually sign-up and NOT post anything. Instead, to get busy training and save the big announcement for when the work is done and the goal is accomplished.

There is power in silence! And, here is some of the science that proves you should NOT talk about your goal (video below).

How easy it is to jump into the latest conversation on Facebook and express our opinions and share HOW this should be or that should or could be different or better! How hard it is to get busy working on and producing those solutions, creating value.

Which do you choose? Which creates VALUE and opportunity? Which one do you think supports goal achievement?

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The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

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S3-24: MBM – On Your Toes!

“If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster.” ~Clint Eastwood
Martin kicks off this episode with his GTR, (good things report) what he believes might just be a great trick to help him remember names. Henry’s GTR is about his recent trip to the desert with the family to see the amazing desert bloom. The spring flowers are flourishing as a result of the recent and heavy rainfall in California.

Jumping into today’s topic; “Staying on your toes” they both share how easy it is to fall back into “comfort” and “security”. To become complacent and then before one realizes it they are “playing” defense” and have fallen back into “protection mode” rather than pushing forward and continuing to learn and challenge themselves.

It’s easy to fall back on your heels, become tentative, hesitant and insecure. And, Henry and MG use the old sports analogy that is almost cliche these days. That of the football team with a big lead who will go into a “Prevent Defense”. If you saw the most recent Superbowl many contend that is precisely what happened to the Atlanta Falcons. The strategy (to preserve the lead) seems to almost always backfire and prevent the team with the lead from winning.

Why does that happen so often? Well, one team is focused upon what they DO NOT want to happen while the other team is focused upon what they DO want to happen. The interesting thing is both teams are focused upon the same thing.

What are you focused upon? What you want to happen or what you do NOT want to happen?

The question the hosts offer the listener is this: WHO KNOWS FOR SURE WHAT THE FUTURE HOLDS?

If the reason people become hesitant and insecure, and stop taking action is because they are afraid and think they might fail, then the question is, “WHO KNOWS FOR SURE?”

The answer of course is NOBODY knows for sure and even with “failure” there are so many benefits that come of it. So the ONLY mindset that really makes sense is the “BE ON YOUR TOES” ? an aggressive, confident and optimistic view about what you DO WANT To HAPPEN!

So, go for it! Enjoy the show! ; )

Here’s a recent post on the same topic from thehabitfactor.com’s blog. Enjoy!

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(FREE! The Habit Factor’s Tracking Template)

The Habit Factor® (website: BLOG, tips, tools and other resources)

The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

The Habit Factor’s Facebook (Private) Accountability Group


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S3-21: MBM – The Fruits of Pain

“Habit; A shackle for the free.” ~Ambrose Bierce

Martin shares how his latest experiment, abstaining from alcohol for just one month (unable to have a beer or two a night) then evolved into another behavior experiment, a modified low carb/diet. Both of these he explains were fairly painful yet, the fruits? the rewards of each have been fantastic!”It’s kinda like the frogs that are boiled to death in the pot as they are slowly cooked. The temperature rises slowly, one degree at a time and they never notice or try to escape until it’s too late. The frogs are just too comfortable until, of course, they are dead.”

“There are two great pains in life,” Jim Rohn is famous for saying. “The pain of discipline or the pain of regret.” “Discipline” he assures us “weighs ounces but regret weighs tons.”

The bad news is there is no escaping the pain. The good news is we have a choice. And, the best news is; you should know that there is tremendous FRUIT on the other side of that pain and challenge you put yourself under!

Ideally, we don’t want to arrive at the end of our lives thinking “I SHOULD HAVE” tried this, learned that, only to realize we have wasted too much time and most of it in a perpetual mission to stay “comfortable”.

Keep experimenting? keep leaning into the pain and discomort the great challenges that will make you better. You’re far stronger and more resilient than you know and you won’t ever know if you don’t try!

Go for it! Enjoy the show! ; )

P.S.: ANYTIME YOU CHANGE / MODIFY YOUR DIET FIRST seek the advice of a medical professional. This is not an endorsement of any particular diet product or plan.

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(FREE! The Habit Factor’s Tracking Template)

The Habit Factor® (website: BLOG, tips, tools and other resources)

The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

The Habit Factor’s Facebook (Private) Accountability Group


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S3-18: MBM – Learning Mastery!


“We do not learn, and that what we call learning is only a process of recollection.” ~Plato

It seems we address certain types of learning differently than say preparing to perform. In other words, to prepare for a performance we will practice, practice, and practice some more. But, when it comes to learning something we expect to see or hear it once and completely know it and be able to recall it.

Crazier still, we tend to think we’re not too smart if we need to relearn the same lesson over and over again.

MG and HE challenge this idea. MG recalls how some of the audio lessons on his playlist he’s heard “hundreds” of times! The EXACT SAME lesson. And, he says, here’s the “crazy” thing? each time he seems to pickup and learn something new.

Why is that? How can you or I hear the same message three times, for instance, and learn or pickup something different each time?

They cover the various reasons behind this phenomena and then, ultimately, propose this is precisely what higher education is about? for instance what PhD students do! They study the SAME SUBJECT over and over and then again, some more. They GO DEEP vs wide (breadth) and cover the same topic from different angles and perspectives. And, because of this, they notice details, nuances and connections most people will never see.

This, learning the same things over and over and then some more, is really what we call expertise. This is what mastery really is!

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More Resources

(FREE! The Habit Factor’s Tracking Template)

The Habit Factor® (website: BLOG, tips, tools and other resources)

The Habit Factor® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Pressure Paradox® Book (Amazon Kindle)

The Habit Factor app (iOS, Android)

The Habit Factor’s Facebook (Private) Accountability Group


>>>>CONNECT WITH HENRY EVANS<<<<

Get Clear Marketing

The Hour A Day Entrepreneur

 
Check out this episode of Habits 2 Goals! Be sure to review on iTunes, Stitcher or GooglePlay! Thank you!

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